Raul V. Rodriguez

Sunday, September 18, 2016

THE LIES WE TELL OURSELVES

Everybody engages in some amount of self-deception or the other, little denials or rationalizations that remove unpleasant evidences of our warts. Episodes of self- enhancements are extremely normal. Truth be told, slightly overrating ourselves seems to be psychologically healthy. Self-deception alleviates stress, benefits relationships, and makes us more resilient by sheltering the ego from the storms of reality.
According to recent studies conducted by cognitive psychologists, ample amount of evidence has been gathered which states that self-deception is a basic feature of the human mind. Deceiving ourselves has many advantages, including appearing confident and winning favor of other. The human mind is a jumble of conscious and unconscious elements that allows us to be both: deceiver and deceived, although it may differ in the degree to which we are onto our own tricks.
A little bit of self-deceit is good for everyone, but when it comes to core challenges of adult life like career, money, sexual identity, and marriage – fooling yourself can have devastating consequences.
There is no personality type in particular that is more vulnerable to self-deception. Everyone is equally susceptible, especially when anxiety takes over the best in us. In general, accepting our flaws alongside our strengths provides a bulwark against excessive self-deception; so does coming to peace with our own internal contradictions and learning to withstand difficult feelings, such as doubt and fear.